- 10, 15, 2020
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- Childhood Sexual Abuse, Effects, Marriage, Trauma, Triggers
Seasonal Triggers: Our Bodies Remember
Our bodies remember! If your wife is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, your awareness of seasonal triggers can be a first step towards extending compassion to your wife and alleviating your own frustration over her unexpected and seemingly unnatural responses. A survivor’s memory and the effects of her trauma can be triggered when any […]
Take a Tour- 08, 04, 2020
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- Childhood Sexual Abuse, Empathy, Marriage, Self-Awareness, Survivors, Trauma
How Shall We Live as Spouses of Sexual Abuse Survivors?
In this 8-minute video, I offer 6 fundamental principles applied to everyday living for spouses of childhood sexual abuse survivors.
Take a Tour- 06, 05, 2020
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- Book, Childhood Sexual Abuse, Hope and Healing, Long-term Effects, Marriage
Listen to our 3-episode story of a nightmare turned into a miracle
Every story from a survivor of childhood sexual abuse is unique and something can be learned from every story. My wife, Pamela, and I invite you into our story. Our prayer is that you too will experience hope and healing. Our interview with the national family ministry FamilyLife Today is conducted by Dave and Ann […]
Take a Tour- 05, 18, 2020
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- Childhood Sexual Abuse, Marriage, Shame, Survivors
How to Resolve Shame
Though every survivor of childhood sexual abuse has their own unique story, shame is a common long-term effect for all survivors. Shame is a disconnect from others and self that can be common to all but especially imposed upon survivors of sexual abuse and their spouses. It rises out of a sense that something is […]
Take a Tour- 05, 04, 2020
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Four Responses to Shame
Shame is a common experience among survivors of childhood sexual abuse. It is a condition imposed on them as opposed to being initiated by them. The internal response of shame is not because of what they have done but because of what they have been led to believe about themselves. A survivor churns with self-condemning […]
Take a Tour- 04, 06, 2020
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- Childhood Sexual Abuse, Conflict, Marriage, Personal Development, Relationship, Survivors
From Social Distancing to Marital Connecting during COVID-19
In my previous blog, I suggested ways of coping during COVID-19, with applications focused primarily on marriages affected by a spouse’s childhood sexual abuse. In this blog, I offer four ideas for couples to move from mere coping during COVID-19 to healthy marital connecting during COVID-19. Matthew Lieberman in his book Social: Why Our Brains […]
Take a Tour- 03, 30, 2020
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- Childhood Sexual Abuse, Marriage, Trauma, Triggers
Coping with COVID-19 in a Marriage Affected by Sexual Abuse
During the Coronavirus/COVID-19 pandemic, many marriages are being challenged in new ways as “Stay at Home” orders are given to many states and localities. Constant togetherness is not always a good thing. Men and women in marriages affected by a spouse’s childhood sexual abuse can find it extra challenging in our new normal. These challenges […]
Take a Tour- 12, 09, 2019
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- Childhood Sexual Abuse, Marriage, Personal Development
God is Reshaping Me
When I interact with husbands whose wives are survivors of childhood sexual abuse, I often speak of how God seeks to reshape us so that we can be free from the attitudes and behaviors that are destructive to us as husbands and detrimental to our marriage. I sometimes refer to this as personal development. God […]
Take a Tour- 09, 17, 2019
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- Book, Childhood Sexual Abuse, Long-term Effects, Marriage, Scripture, Self-care, Shame
“I’ve wanted this book for a long time.”
I am excited to announce the release of my new book Help, My Wife is a Survivor of Sexual Abuse: Answers to Your Most Important Questions. You will find it on Amazon beginning Monday, September 23, in both paperback and Kindle versions. It is my prayer that the information, insights, and recommendations in this book […]
Take a Tour- 07, 29, 2019
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- Childhood Sexual Abuse, Effects, Empathy, Marriage, Self-care
Three Steps to Personal Development for Spouses of Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivors
The principles that govern my work with husbands include the necessity of self-awareness, self-care, and personal development. The trauma inflicted by childhood sexual abuse and the long-term effects endured by survivors of abuse imposes unwanted challenges for both the survivor and spouse. I work with husbands of childhood sexual abuse survivors, helping them navigate in […]
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