Why do husbands of childhood sexual abuse survivors feel shame and what can they do about it?
Caleb stood in the hallway and poked his head into the room, enough to see in but not enough to be easily seen. He was deciding whether to attend my breakout session at a men’s conference or the breakout session on pornography – how men are enticed into it and neurologically affected by it. My […]
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How should husbands respond to their wives’ dissociation?
Tina Zahn experienced dissociative moments common to many survivors of childhood sexual abuse. In her book, Why I Jumped, Tina described how her stepfather ordered her to their dark and dingy basement. She recalled how she hated her stepfather’s breathing, being held down by him, and the smells that emitted from him. As her stepfather […]
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What is Dissociation and does it affect survivors of childhood sexual abuse?
Many survivors of childhood sexual abuse experience a phenomenon common to trauma survivors known as dissociation. Dissociation serves as a means of self-protection against the terror or horror of the abuse. When the common experience of dissociation becomes a practiced pattern, it develops into a disorder known as Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID).
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Childhood sexual abuse: How can we speak and listen so that our wives can hear and understand?
How can we speak and listen, as husbands, so that our wives can hear and understand? It’s a matter of expressing, receiving, and our driving motivations.
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Should I Stay or Should I Go? [When Your Wife was Sexually Abused As A Child]
Many men who are married to a survivor of childhood sexual abuse are confronted by a marital question that they never anticipated on their wedding day: Should I stay or should I go? Think back to your wedding day. Like most grooms, you had bright hopes. But, as the husband of a childhood sexual abuse survivor, you are probably reading […]
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My wife experienced childhood sexual abuse: 3 Truths to Inhale when Resilience Runs Out
If your wife has experienced childhood sexual abuse, there are three truths to inhale when your resilience runs out!
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Childhood sexual abuse: Do you have a “go to” truth in troubling seasons?
Husbands of wives who have experienced childhood sexual abuse can be haunted and taunted by the effects that directly affect their wives!
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Childhood sexual abuse: Tips for a Survivor’s Spouse
Guest blogger, Laura Landgraf (author, speaker & life coach), speaks into the lives of husbands whose wives are victims/survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
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Childhood sexual abuse & marriage: I want my wife back!
Men who are married to victims of childhood sexual abuse might experience a marriage in which it seems like they’ve been married to two different women, especially if their wife’s disclosure of the abuse occurred several years into their marriage. Brent’s wife was outgoing and adventurous during the first ten years of their marriage. But […]
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Fitting childhood sexual abuse into a biblical worldview
Last week, I once again compiled a list of the effects of childhood sexual abuse. Each time I make a list, I am reminded of how broad sweeping and deeply troubling are the effects of childhood sexual abuse. Don’t just read the following list. Take time to consider the traumatic impact of childhood sexual abuse. […]
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